Core Idea: A calm, steady, non-anxious leadership presence is key.
Leadership is change. Change creates fear. Fear leads to sabotage.
A failure of nerve jeopardizes progress and encourages chaos.
Social and political anxieties paralyze our ability to think, dream, and move forward.
Leadership nerve is standing firm amid fear, turmoil, anxiety, and gridlock.
Why it matters:
Better futures come from new learning. New learning requires risk and the ability to withstand the emotional turmoil that comes with change.
Friedman likens our times to the calcified thinking of the middle ages. Then explorers like Vasco da Gama and Columbus acted their way into new ways of thinking. Those explorers opened a new world of thinking where:
- Mistakes are part of learning
- Serendipity opens new doors
- Strong leaders have the will to overcome old ways of thinking
New World Leaders
- Discern and navigate emotional tensions
- Clarify their vision, values, and goals
- Take decisive action when there is no new information coming in
- Project a non-anxious presence in the face of turmoil
- Communicate calmly
- Take a calm learning stance amid polarization and reactivity
- Maintain character and integrity without blaming others
Surviving Crisis and Sabotage
Leaders who stand firm in times of crisis:
- Don’t let crisis spin them out of control
- Develop a support system
- Stay focused on long-term goals
- Practice deep breathing, prayer, or meditation
- Keep the system loose through humor
- Become decisive when there is no new information
- Recognize that sabotage is a sign of success rather than failure
Fixing unhealthy emotional systems
Unhealthy emotional systems are marked by the following:
- Reactivity: remain steady and proactive
- Coalitions of fear: keep communicating
- Blaming and shaming: don’t get sucked into negative emotions
- Quick fix thinking: endure the short-term pain for long-term gain
- Wishy-washy leadership: take a stand; chart a steady course
Sabotage, Friedman says, is part of the territory. He tells of Columbus being held back by a crew that faked needed repairs. He finally decided to control what he could control and announced that he was moving on. The crew magically fixed the problem and caught up.
In our anxious, seat-belt society, the resistance that sabotages a leader’s initiative usually has less to do with the “issue” than with the fear of change.
Non-anxious leaders calm anxieties by charting a steady course forward.
To Learn More …
- Tempered Resilience: How Leaders Are Formed in the Crucible of Change (Tempered Resilience Set) by Tod E Bolsinger | Nov 10, 2020
- Leadership for a Time of Pandemic: Practicing Resilience by Tod E. Bolsinger | May 15, 2020
- A Non-Anxious Presence: How a Changing and Complex World will Create a Remnant of Renewed Christian Leaders by Mark Sayers | May 10, 2022